Carolyn, my significant other, is an identical twin. And while she and her sister are easy to tell apart now, that has not always been the case.
Distinguishing which is which in photos before the age of 10 is difficult, and before the age of 5, impossible.
You can imagine how challenging it would have been for their parents to figure out if they were addressing Marilyn or Carolyn. They solved this problem by not even trying. Instead, they just called both girls “Sissy.” That way they avoided the embarrassing, inevitable “I’m not Carolyn; I’m Marilyn” response. To this day Carolyn calls Marilyn “Sissy,” and Marilyn calls Carolyn “Sissy.” When they exchange gifts, all of the tags say, “To Sissy. From Sissy.”
As in Disney movies, the twins took advantage of others’ befuddlement. In high school, Carolyn took both her own and Sissy’s Latin classes, while in return Sissy doubled up on P.E. classes.
One time, they also exploited their identicalness in the romance department. When they were 15, Marilyn had been ardently hoping for a date with the captain of the football team, and, finally, he called. But Sissy was violently sick with a stomach virus. Determined not to lose her chance, she said “yes” and then began pleading with Carolyn to substitute-date for her. Carolyn raised multiple common-sense objections, but Sissy prevailed. Marilyn assured her, “You don’t have to do anything but hold my place. Just be sure to get me a second date. Do whatever it takes to get me a second date.” As you might expect, the quarterback, famed for how good he was with his hands, spent all night making passes at Carolyn. Carolyn, for her part, repeatedly deflected them. After his several fumbled attempts, the QB said in exasperation, “You’re a lot more shy than I thought you’d be.” To which Carolyn replied, “I don’t do any of that on a first date.” When he asked, “What about a second date?” Carolyn told him encouragingly, “We’ll see.” The footballer did indeed call again. Marilyn returned early from this second date—looking out of sorts—marched right to Carolyn and said, “Exactly what did you say to him? He was all over me.”
Now I know what you’re wondering: “Since the twins have a history of being willing and able to impersonate one another, aren’t you concerned they might trick you?” The answer is “no.” These days it’s pretty easy to tell them apart . . . unless they’re on a car trip together and one of them calls me. You see, they often switch phones. If Carolyn is driving, I know that Sissy might call me on Carolyn’s phone, so instead of my usual “Hi, Baby”—I just say “Hi,” and if the other person just says “Hi” in response, I keep my words as neutral as possible till I can figure out whether I’m talking to Sissy number one or Sissy number two. I also have to be very careful when Sissy visits because she’s always wearing Carolyn’s clothes and the twins are of course the same height and body build, so when I’m coming up behind my wife to give her a surprise embrace . . . Well, you get the idea.
Here’s the thing: The state of North Carolina, where I reside, sets a lot of store by exactly what’s written on birth certificates. And Carolyn and Marilyn’s parents couldn’t tell them apart—didn’t even try to keep straight who was who. So who knows if when the infants learned their names, they learned them correctly? I figure there’s a 50-50 chance that the woman I’m married to, who calls herself Carolyn, is actually legally Marilyn by birth. And that’s how—as far-fetched as it might sound—it’s even odds that I’m living in sin, am not actually married to my own wife . . . but instead am legally wedded—to my sister-in-law.
My thanks to Wildacres Writers Retreat, where this piece was written.
That goes from “Dear Penthouse, I never thought this would happen to me” to the complicated reality pretty quickly.
Mark, Bill here. The REPLY button is no longer available on this post, so I’m responding in an “edit.” You are most perceptive. (P.S. Why would anybody address a letter to the top floor of an upscale apartment building?)
Calling both girls ‘Sissy,” was a move of pure genius. If you were also an identical twin, the sheer, mass confusion would have been electric.
In a perfect world, Bill Y, YOU are my twin.
Bill, I loved it. What a funny piece and did I once meet Marilyn when I stayed at yours and Carolyn’s cabin years ago? Or was that just a twin dream?
Johnny Young
We probably forced you to look at many twin photos.
(Congratulations, Johnny, on how great your Hollywood acting career is going.)
I’d say it matters not
Whether called Marilyn or Carolyn
It’s the fond embrace
from behind
that might get you in water boilin’
Be oh so careful, Bill Spencer!
This advice is not bad; it could be verse.
Sounds a bit duplicitous to me, Bill, and definitely not a marriage for sissies.
Everyone’s one of a kind
And that’s really nice
But my wife’s one of a kind
—Twice.
My gosh! My gosh! Or is it the other way around?
Exactly!
At least you can never say you don’t have interesting problems.
Even a DNA test won’t help.
I love how they have rhyming names too! That photo is adorable. Are you sure you live with the right Sissy?
I love the Sissy I’m living with; I’m just not sure North Carolina won’t challenge whether I’m married to her.
I am sure God has a great sense of humor and will show you mercy laughing His head off! I knew that you would post a humorous article on being married to a twin sister but now I don’t know her legal name! Does that mean I have a 50% chance of being correct calling your wife, Marilyn?! Fortunately, I cannot go wrong calling your wife Sissy!
It’s good to have a brother who has an in with the Lord. When St. Peter stops me at the gate, I’m dropping your name.
Hahaha! Who knew? Thanks for this Bill. Lovely to see you here in SC last week!
Rhea
Thank you for reading and commenting, Rhea. Great to see you, too. I wish you much success in your teaching this year. Teach those younguns a thing or two!