An Excerpt from Dorothy Rosby’s I Didn’t Know You Could Make Birthday Cake From Scratch: Parenting Blunders from Cradle to Empty Nest


Today we are thrilled to excerpt a chapter from I Didn’t Know You Could Make Birthday Cake From Scratch: Parental Blunders from Cradle to Empty Nest by Dorothy Rosby. With Mother’s Day approaching, this is the perfect gift! Dorothy will also be doing a book signing at Mitzi’s Books in Rapid City, South Dakota on Saturday, April 30th from 1 to 3 PM. Please stop by and meet this talented woman if you are in the area.

Donna Cavanagh

Put the Gun Down and Come Eat Your Breakfast!

I’m awakened by five young toughs carrying weapons. I’m groggy and confused but unafraid—maybe because they’re rubbing their eyes and wearing their jammies. Besides, there aren’t enough weapons to go around, so one of them is carrying a clipboard.

It’s the morning after a birthday sleepover and the toys and games remind me: boy play is goofy. Having been a girl myself, I can say without a doubt that girl play is also goofy—or at least it was when I was playing. It’s just goofy in different ways.

Even boy toys are weird. While many toys marketed to girls are stupid and sappy, many toys marketed to boys are stupid and creepy, especially the dolls. And yes, boys have dolls; they just don’t call them dolls. And if you know what’s good for you, you won’t call them dolls either. You’ll call them “action figures.” But they’re dolls nonetheless; they’re just ugly dolls.

Girls’ dolls talk. Boys’ dolls make strange beeping noises. Girls’ dolls wear gobs of makeup and have retractable hair. Boys’ dolls wear shields and have retractable heads.

And then there’s the weaponry. It’s almost a cliché that if parents swear off toy weapons, their sons will shoot with bananas. Or tennis shoes. Or toothbrushes. After a while you hardly notice that cuddled up next to your son’s Cookie Monster is a plastic grenade and a triple action machine gun.

I don’t know about girls, but boys are intensely competitive. As I often am, I was recently called to settle a serious argument between my son and his friend: can a sword block a bullet? I have no expertise in weaponry, but I do know a thing or two about diplomacy. And I knew that a definite answer would have one boy mad at me and both boys mad at each other. “It depends on the sword, the bullet and how far they are apart. But it’s certainly possible,” I said with a nod to one boy. “But not likely,” I added with a nod to the other. They walked away from me, each saying, “I told you so.”

Boys take up the entire house. If there’s a war going on, as there often is, there will be collateral damage in every room. I’ve even found army men in my purse, which can be embarrassing at the checkout counter.

Boys have a great sense of fairness—especially when they think they’re being treated unfairly. And they generally play by the rules, which is harder than it sounds when you consider how often the rules change.

During a recent spine-tingling playdate in our home, the list of items that could be destroyed by toxic waste grew faster than an oil spill. “You said toxic waste can’t destroy a robot.”

“It can when the robot is made of…titanium.”

“Mine isn’t! It’s made of…aluminum…and plastic.”

“Even worse!”

“But his protective shield is on.”

“I turned it off with my…toxic laser beam.”

“You can’t do that. Only I can do that with my…protective shield switcher.”

“I just did it.”

Parenting experts would agree that intervening in such a debate is unwise. Children must be allowed to work out their own disagreements in order to become mature adults who can cooperatively settle disagreements about toxic laser beams and aluminum robots.

But sometimes even the best of parents is tempted to chime in with some great pearl of wisdom like, “Take it outside! You’re driving me nuts!”

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7 thoughts on “An Excerpt from Dorothy Rosby’s I Didn’t Know You Could Make Birthday Cake From Scratch: Parenting Blunders from Cradle to Empty Nest”

  1. My favorite toy as a kid was my Thompson machine gun, exactly like the one Sgt. Rock of Easy Company carried in the comics. But I also found that a mop handle made for a perfect Revolutionary War muzzle-loading rifle, so I’d have been perfectly happy shooting the banana!

    1. Donna, can we actually get away with saying, “I’d be perfectly happy shooting the banana” on this site?

  2. Based on the details in the 6th paragraph of your diplomatic genius, I hope you’ll be appointed as an ambassador to the Middle East. Im-mediate-ly. Most impressive.

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