The Art of Letting Go, an Excerpt from One Heart With Courage: Essays and Stories

We are proud to excerpt this wonderful One Heart With Courage: Essays and Stories from our friend Teri Rizvi Who is the founder and director of the Erma Bombeck Writers’ Workshop at the University of Dayton where she serves as executive director of strategic communications. Her essays and feature stories have appeared in USA Today, The Christian Science Monitor, The Guardian (London), University of Dayton Magazine and the Dayton Daily News, among other print and online media.

She is the co-editor of Laugh Out Loud: 40 Women Humorists Celebrate Then and Now … Before We Forget and Sisters! Bonded by Love and Laughter, a humor book that celebrates the bond of sisters (and soul sisters), both published in conjunction with the Erma Bombeck Writers’ Workshop. Her essay “Living in the Moment” will appear in Fast Fierce Women (Woodhall Press, 2022). 

One Heart with Courage: Essays and Stories is available for ordering now from Braughler BooksAmazon and Barnes and Noble. Proceeds benefit the Erma Bombeck Writers’ Workshop endowment fund, used to keep the workshop affordable for writers.

Book Description:

In One Heart with Courage: Essays and Stories  (Braughler Books, 2021), Teri Rizvi brings a powerful, original voice to a collection of essays that shows why our dreams matter. Woven throughout her writings is a deep faith in what’s possible when we open our hearts. 

A journalist and storyteller who has traveled widely, Rizvi writes with grace and eloquence about her marriage, which spans two cultures and two religions in a world that’s too often divided. Her lyrical writings illuminate our shared humanity through a series of small, everyday moments — a child’s T-ball practice, a socially distanced parking lot lunch with a friend — as well as recollections of major life milestones such as joyful weddings in foreign lands. 

This debut collection explores universal themes of friendship, family and faith with vulnerability, hope and poignancy. The book takes its title from a phrase that Martin Sheen uttered when he received an honorary degree from the University of Dayton: “Remember this above all: One heart with courage is a majority.” This courage — together with a writer’s lifelong curiosity — has fueled Rizvi’s life journey, and it is one that readers will relish taking at her side.  

Edited by Julie Fanselow and illustrated by Julie Lonneman. The publication date is Oct. 1, but it’s available for preorder from Braughler BooksAmazon and Barnes and Noble. It will also be available in the University of Dayton Bookstore. Read the prelude here.

The Art of Letting Go


“The blackberries gleam like glass, like the glass ornaments we hang on trees in December to remind ourselves to be grateful for snow.”


After one of my childhood best friends died on the Fourth of July, my friend Scott reached out to share a poignant Margaret Atwood poem, “Blackberries,” about savoring life’s sweetness before it’s gone.

For months Holly lay helpless in a Reno hospital bed, kept alive by a ventilator, a trach and hope. She could only mouth words and, for a stretch, her longtime partner Norbert said she silently talked up a storm to him. In a FaceTime call a week before she died, she nodded her head several times as I regaled her with stories of our youthful escapades. When she tried to respond, I couldn’t hear her, but I understood three words: “I love you.” Earlier that week, she scribbled three words to Norbert: “Help me die.”

 Six words, sparse yet undeniable. “The hardest thing to say sometimes is ‘I want what you want,’” said my son Ali, a mental health counselor.

It was time for us to let go.

 Outside my home office window this summer, the cicadas emerged from a 17-year hiatus to create quite a ruckus for a few weeks before mating and dying. At first, their shrill singsong annoyed me, but as Holly’s life slipped away, I listened anew to their poetic call. Isn’t life all about love and loss?

 Holly and I became inseparable friends in high school when we played on the softball team and in summer leagues. During those vulnerable coming-of-age years, we spent hours playing ball, hitting the tennis courts, drinking Little King’s and hanging out on muggy Ohio summer evenings, the night sky twinkling with fireflies. We never thought their light would dim, let alone ours.

 After we embarked to universities on the opposite ends of the state, we faithfully stayed in touch through lengthy letters — half news, half philosophical musings — that I still store in a shoebox. One summer break we set out in my rusted ’69 Oldsmobile 442 on a zany mission to meet my teen idol Gary Puckett at Americana Amusement Park, where we managed to talk our way backstage. Flash forward to another summer, when she joined my sister Nancy and my college roommates as bridesmaids at my wedding. A candid photo captured her smiling face as the women laughed and teased the bemused groom.

 And now, this summer.

 Shortly after midnight on Independence Day, Holly found freedom from a body battered by cancer and a host of insurmountable health challenges. As fireworks lit up the Lake Michigan sky near our summer home, my husband Zafar unfolded a sky lantern. I swear I bought only brightly colored ones, so how did a white memorial lantern end up on the top of the stack? It was inscribed with the words, “May this light rise to the heavens to shine with you through all eternity.” Astonished, we stared at the lantern in reverent silence as our neighbor Kate picked up a pen and scrawled Holly’s name on it.

 As Zafar lit the mini hot air balloon and gently guided it upward over the tranquil waves, Ali said softly, “That’s a God moment.” When I texted a photo to my friend Anna, she replied, “It gave me chills of recognition of so many things we rarely get to glimpse. It’s beyond poignant and honestly kind of magical.”

 Standing on the sand, I watched the floating lantern become a tiny, then indistinguishable, dot in the inky sky. I knew its light couldn’t last forever — just like the sweetness of summer’s blackberries or the fleeting love call of cicadas.

Yet, in my sadness, I gratefully embraced this moment as one of life’s unexpected gifts, a reminder of the soaring power of love. 

(Summer 2021)

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3 thoughts on “The Art of Letting Go, an Excerpt from One Heart With Courage: Essays and Stories”

  1. I’ve had so much sadness lately, Teri, and I think a lot of it comes from trying to fight the inevitable loss of some loved ones. This passage really helped me this morning. Thank you!

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